Friday, April 13, 2012


  I spent most of the day at some friend's house, hopefully I didn't overstay my welcome. I worked with Don at Pet Dairy for a little while and we both, years later, ended up at UPS where Don eventually became one of my bosses. In an email he says his wife Barbra has been diagnosed with cancer and they would like for me to visit. I love Don and Barb like family and they have taught many people, myself included, just what marriage and love is just by silently watching them. They probably don't read this blog and hopefully I hope they don't mind me mentioning them. Barb has throat, lung, and liver cancer and I ask that those who read this pray for them and why I think it is important to call their names.

  We teased Don when he was at UPS while quietly we admired the love they have between them. Even today they held each others hands while I was there on and off, which was nothing unusual for the pair. After 40 years of marriage. Barb would pack Don's lunch when he drove and even when he went into management, usually accompanied with a little note. We laughed and remembered crazy things we'd done while working together all those years, talked some serious stuff in between, told some jokes, and talked about the world things that seem nuts. For years I ran the route where their house is and would stop in the heat for a glass of cold water. The best though is when Don would be on vacation and I'd stop the Package Car and blow the horn. When Don would come out I'd point to the logo and tell him not to think about work, lol. They are in good spirits and are ready to fight the battle they face. These are good, honest people who have worked hard all their life and it doesn't seem fair and it isn't. Then again, life never is fair.

  So I ask those who read this please stop and take a moment to remember them in their prayers and thoughts. You would love these two as I do if you knew them.  


David said...

Where to begin? People say life isn't fair as a bit of a slogan and, in many ways, it just washes over us now. "Life isn't fair" ya ya ya. But how does one come to grips with what Barb and Don are going through now? Life isn't fair seems like such an understatement it would be amusing if it wasn't so darn sad.

I have no idea why Barb has cancer. Life would be so much easier if I knew why. But I don't. And it's so frustrating because I know that one day either myself, or someone I love, will have to go through something similar. And if can't come to grips with it well when it doesn't even involve my family, how will I when it does? An extremely scary thought.

Barb doesn't deserve this. You don't deserve this. This poor girl doesn't deserve it.

I will continue to pray for you, Anthony. And I will pray for Barb and for Don. I just wish there was more I could do.

anthony7 said...

Thank you David for the prayer for Don and Barb and myself, as well as this little girl. My heart breaks when I hear of someone who is diagnosed with cancer. Though it can be beat, the road is hard and the aftermath takes it's toll and the person and all. I think children though are the hardest to take. This part will not allow for me to place this little girl's video up so I'll do a special post just for that. God Bless, Anthony

Christina Almeida said...

I will keep barb and Don in my prayers. It is so wonderful how you describe how they love each other. It is something I crave, and I am so happy they have experienced that. The fact that they have each other is a very consoling to me while they both go through this together. Big prayers for Barb and DON : )